Growing up...

I've been sitting in lectures in a YWAM Addictive Behavioral School.  This week's topic is on Dysfunctional Families.  One of the most interesting things that was said today was:


If you want to grow up, get married.
If you want to grow up more, have children.
If you don't want to grow up, don't get married.
If you really don't want to grow up, don't have children.
If you want to stop growing up, get divorced.

Just a very interesting way of looking at things. 

2 comments:

Ryan Grenz May 16, 2010 at 5:50 PM  

That is an interesting perspective. What was it said in context to? I am not sure that I agree with it...

Karilynn May 20, 2010 at 9:41 PM  

it was said in context to the idea that when we have true intimacy, and are following what God desires in our relationships, which is openness, honestly, less of yourself and more of Him, then a person, such as a spouse, who is that close to you, will inevitably make you painfully aware of just how selfish you are. a christian marriage, after all, is supposed to be a testimony to the world of Christ's love to the church (eph. 5).
about kids, parenting is, discipleship. and discipleship means being the model that you want your kids to become. we're supposed to be disciples of Christ, reflecting His image, which we do...mostly poorly. So, the kids are a further relationship that pushes us to be our best, beyond that which we would normally be.
if you never get married, you're never forced to intimacy like in marriage. i'm not saying that you can't have intimate friends. but i'm guessing there is something different about how marriage is supposed to work.
divorce is caused by someone's or both people's immaturity, if you look at it as a covenant under God which shouldn't be broken.
i could have just answered this in another blog. :P

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